Usually, a conflict in a relationship can be owed to miscommunication, expectations, or even insensitivity. When you begin noticing early signs of potential full-blown strife in your relationship, try taking proactive steps to restore its harmony. Of course, the steps taken towards restoring harmony may be easier said than done. Still, these steps are essential to take as they will increase mindfulness, openness, and sensitivity to other person’s feelings.
To move on from conflict to harmony in relationships, you will first have to let go of the idea that the relationship is inherently bad or there is something wrong with it. Understand that conflict in any kind of relationship is inevitable. When two people join hands together and wish to stay with each other, they bring their fair share of personal experiences, hopes, expectations, and beliefs that may not always be similar to yours. There is no right or wrong when it comes to beliefs or expectations; it is just simply different. If you belonged to the same background as them, then it is just as possible for you to have a similar belief system. Here are 3 ways to move from a conflict to harmony in a relationship.
1. Let go
Harmony starts with letting go of pent-up hurt that you may feel. It might be challenging, but letting go of the baggage of the past is a vital step towards a peaceful relationship. We all are human beings, capable of making mistakes. Perhaps it is possible that your partner did something to offend you, and instead of processing it or healing from it, you decided to bottle it all up and move on. It is crucial for you to go through the entire process of healing, and forgiveness, in order to let go truly and eventually find peace in the relationship. If you don’t do so, it is only natural for the resentment you hold towards them to manifest in some form, and the negativity will come out in some way or another. So, in order to stop passing those snarky remarks or feel more closeness with your significant other, you got to let go of the hurt from the past.
2. Know when to talk
Try not to have difficult conversations when you are either tired or hungry. It is possible that you are grumpier then. Don’t worry; it is only human nature. Instead, try to find a time where both of you are feeling relaxed and comfortable. This way, any difficult conversation is less likely to escalate into a full-blown argument. You could also try going out for a walk or doing an activity that does not require much brainpower but is comforting. However, you could also prefer talking at home. Do whatever suits you both best.
3. Active Listening
To make any communication effective and meaningful, it is essential for you to make it clear to your partner that you are actively listening and understanding what they are saying. Try to be reflective of their opinions and feelings. Take your time with really understanding where your partner is coming from and the meaning of their message. Assure them frequently about what you heard and ask questions in between to show interest. Even if things don’t immediately make sense to you, it doesn’t mean that your partner is wrong. Instead of letting miscommunication brew, talk about what you feel and think in order to absorb the whole meaning of whatever your partner is saying.
It may be hard to take the steps towards a peaceful relationship, but they are important. A healthy and harmonious relationship brings a lot of mental peace, which is vital for all of us.